I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
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I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
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I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
Cathartic.
11/23/2018
I was raised at Josh’s church in MD, and thus I have been following this film with interest. I had several disconnected thoughts:
1. My first relationship failed, in part because we "guarded our hearts" too intently.
This is a minor source of heartbreak for me, which ironically is exactly what courtship was supposed to help me avoid. I am now fond of the CS Lewis quote: To love at all is to be vulnerable.
2. Josh and Jessica did well by examining IKDG in light of the larger cultural influences that were present in 1999, as the story of the purity movement is bigger than IKDG.
3. I appreciated the diversity represented in the interviews. The speakers came from different traditions or intellectual backgrounds (a secular columnist! a professor!)
4. The moral here is very old: we saw a problem in the culture. We wrote some rules, but our rules created new problems. I am reminded of Elijah in 1 Kings: we did no better than our fathers.
5. FWIW, Josh, I forgive you. Thank you.
I was raised at Josh’s church in MD, and thus I have been following this film with interest. I had several disconnected thoughts:
1. My first relationship failed, in part because we "guarded our hearts" too intently.
This is a minor source of heartbreak for me, which ironically is exactly what courtship was supposed to help me avoid. I am now fond of the CS Lewis quote: To love at all is to be vulnerable.
2. Josh and Jessica did well by examining IKDG in light of the larger cultural influences that were present in 1999, as the story of the purity movement is bigger than IKDG.
3. I appreciated the diversity represented in the interviews. The speakers came from different traditions or intellectual backgrounds (a secular columnist! a professor!)
4. The moral here is very old: we saw a problem in the culture. We wrote some rules, but our rules created new problems. I am reminded of Elijah in 1 Kings: we did no better than our fathers.
5. FWIW, Josh, I forgive you. Thank you.
I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
Thought provoking
12/14/2018
I thoroughly enjoyed the documentary which I watched with a couple of friends, married and single. It was interesting to hear more about the "purity culture" in the late 90's that served as a cultural influence to the book. The film sparked a lot of discussion between us about societal and Christian influences with regards to dating and marriage and the role that sex plays in the whole scenario.
In some ways I feel that the book has been unfairly scapegoated for the failures and shortcomings of the whole purity culture. It is sad to hear that this book was taken as the ultimate guide to successful dating relationships and ultimately marriage. Perhaps it is this approach to the book, that has been the source of much of the hurt that has been experienced.
Josh's ability not only to face his critics, but to examine the influences on his own thoughts and beliefs when he wrote the book is refreshing. This film is definitely worth the watch and the book is definitely still worth the read
I thoroughly enjoyed the documentary which I watched with a couple of friends, married and single. It was interesting to hear more about the "purity culture" in the late 90's that served as a cultural influence to the book. The film sparked a lot of discussion between us about societal and Christian influences with regards to dating and marriage and the role that sex plays in the whole scenario.
In some ways I feel that the book has been unfairly scapegoated for the failures and shortcomings of the whole purity culture. It is sad to hear that this book was taken as the ultimate guide to successful dating relationships and ultimately marriage. Perhaps it is this approach to the book, that has been the source of much of the hurt that has been experienced.
Josh's ability not only to face his critics, but to examine the influences on his own thoughts and beliefs when he wrote the book is refreshing. This film is definitely worth the watch and the book is definitely still worth the read
I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
A much-needed conversation starter
11/24/2018
We've watched this excellent documentary with a bunch of other Christians and had a wonderful evening. It definitely sparks conversation about how to navigate relationships in the 21st century. In the documentary, you can follow Josh's journey, get interesting insights from a variety of different perspectives (readers, critics, experts etc.), listen to his honest reflections and, most of all, think for yourself how you view the various issues raised.
At times, the documentary felt slightly redundant. For example, the observations that Josh's book was held up as a Bible and that marriage should not be "the ultimate" thing were pointed out several times in different ways, so at some point I felt "yeah I get it" ;-) But apart from that, the documentary was really well-done - nice visuals, good pacing and good camera work.
I highly recommend this documentary. Even the fact that an author was willing to question his own book (publicly) deserves respect, I've not seen this anywhere else.
We've watched this excellent documentary with a bunch of other Christians and had a wonderful evening. It definitely sparks conversation about how to navigate relationships in the 21st century. In the documentary, you can follow Josh's journey, get interesting insights from a variety of different perspectives (readers, critics, experts etc.), listen to his honest reflections and, most of all, think for yourself how you view the various issues raised.
At times, the documentary felt slightly redundant. For example, the observations that Josh's book was held up as a Bible and that marriage should not be "the ultimate" thing were pointed out several times in different ways, so at some point I felt "yeah I get it" ;-) But apart from that, the documentary was really well-done - nice visuals, good pacing and good camera work.
I highly recommend this documentary. Even the fact that an author was willing to question his own book (publicly) deserves respect, I've not seen this anywhere else.
I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
grace-full
11/27/2018
I appreciated this thoughtful and grace-filled documentary. As someone who grew up in the evangelical subculture influenced by IKDG, my friends and I have had a lot of conversations about some of the issues addressed in this film. I think part of the appeal of the original book was its connection to our own fear of failure; the idea that if you do things the right way no one will get hurt. But in the intervening years we have come to realize that God can use hurt to help us to grow, so I appreciate how Joshua has also grown in his understanding of grace. I think this documentary is full of hope, because just as God can use mistakes in dating to help us to grow, God can use mistakes in not-dating, and in writing books about not-dating, for His glory. This is what I appreciated in this documentary: humility and honesty in acknowledging mistakes, with hope in the One who redeems them as we grow together. "Through it all, through the compost of our efforts, God brings glory." (N. D. Wilson
I appreciated this thoughtful and grace-filled documentary. As someone who grew up in the evangelical subculture influenced by IKDG, my friends and I have had a lot of conversations about some of the issues addressed in this film. I think part of the appeal of the original book was its connection to our own fear of failure; the idea that if you do things the right way no one will get hurt. But in the intervening years we have come to realize that God can use hurt to help us to grow, so I appreciate how Joshua has also grown in his understanding of grace. I think this documentary is full of hope, because just as God can use mistakes in dating to help us to grow, God can use mistakes in not-dating, and in writing books about not-dating, for His glory. This is what I appreciated in this documentary: humility and honesty in acknowledging mistakes, with hope in the One who redeems them as we grow together. "Through it all, through the compost of our efforts, God brings glory." (N. D. Wilson
I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye."
12/01/2018
I thought Josh did a great job of explaining the context of when and why he wrote the book. I still believe there were and are some very good biblical principles in the book and I plan on continuing to use the book with my children. However, I appreciated him exposing some of the unhelpful responses people had to his book as well as some of the fundamental flaws in the book. No book is a substitute for the Bible and thankfully I never treated it that way with my children. I plan on watching this documentary with my older children and continuing the conversation with them as we together navigate this important time in the life of my teens and young adults. My one critique of the video, a brief 3-5 minute review of the strengths of the book for those of us who still value it and appreciate much of the message. I was a young Christian with 1 young child when the book was written and it was incredibly helpful book for me to reevaluate the worlds system of dating. Thanks for the book & film
I thought Josh did a great job of explaining the context of when and why he wrote the book. I still believe there were and are some very good biblical principles in the book and I plan on continuing to use the book with my children. However, I appreciated him exposing some of the unhelpful responses people had to his book as well as some of the fundamental flaws in the book. No book is a substitute for the Bible and thankfully I never treated it that way with my children. I plan on watching this documentary with my older children and continuing the conversation with them as we together navigate this important time in the life of my teens and young adults. My one critique of the video, a brief 3-5 minute review of the strengths of the book for those of us who still value it and appreciate much of the message. I was a young Christian with 1 young child when the book was written and it was incredibly helpful book for me to reevaluate the worlds system of dating. Thanks for the book & film
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I Survived "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"
You should repent
01/13/2019
Sorry, by English is not perfect. You know you have made a mistake, which affected thousands of peaple into incorrect direction. Why didn't you try to correct the problem for free? Sorry, but this looks like your video is just another good profitable project... You cannot trade with God. Sorry, this is just a bussness. If your intentions were innocent, then you could upload your explanations on youtube for free. Anyway, I want you to know that I do not judge you. I's your responsibility.
Sorry, by English is not perfect. You know you have made a mistake, which affected thousands of peaple into incorrect direction. Why didn't you try to correct the problem for free? Sorry, but this looks like your video is just another good profitable project... You cannot trade with God. Sorry, this is just a bussness. If your intentions were innocent, then you could upload your explanations on youtube for free. Anyway, I want you to know that I do not judge you. I's your responsibility.
In 1997, a 21-year-old Christian single released a revolutionary book on dating. The book became an international bestseller and catapulted its unsuspecting author, Joshua Harris, into the Christian spotlight. I Kissed Dating Goodbye effectively "turned the Christian singles scene upside down" and continues to shape the consciousness of how Christians view singleness, dating, and the roadmap to marriage.
Through the connective platform of social media, Harris has been dealt a battering of online criticism from disenchanted Christians in recent years. Some have lashed out at Harris directly for I Kissed Dating Goodbye, and a few have set up websites dedicated to his victims. Many online have called for Harris to apologize for what they believe was hurtful teaching. Meanwhile, others applaud his work and encourage him to stand his ground Some credit their marriage to principles they say they gleaned from his book, and indicate they plan to teach their children the same. Harris has felt pressure from all sides to do or say something.
In this documentary, we'll see Joshua Harris ready to re-examine I Kissed Dating Goodbye - and its impact - some 20 years later.